In India, when a girl is raped, because the stigma is so enormous, nobody is allowed to disclose her name. So all the various newspapers and media outlets, in their excitement, kept giving her different names. So someone called her Damini and somebody called her Nirbhaya, which means the fearless one, though I don’t know how they assumed that she was fearless. What a strange thing to do to a young girl who was murdered in that way.
But John Kerry recently wanted to honor her on Women’s Day or something in the United States because he seemed so moved by this story. And that I found so grotesque, because in the last few years the Americans have in terms of what they’ve done to the women of Iraq, what they’ve done to the women of Libya, driven whole countries, millions of women back into purdah, back into the most inequitable lives—women who were poets and writers and doctors and scientists being pushed back against their volition. It’s not that they were women who chose to be like that, but the situation that was created by these wars has pushed them back. And then you pick up a young girl who was raped and honor her, when you’re pushing millions of women backwards and putting the hands of the clock back for millions of women. You come and pick up this one case, which is completely unpolitical. What happened to her was a criminal act. What happens to the women of Libya and the women of Iraq and the women of Afghanistan is political. You’re not committing a criminal act on one person but a criminal act on countries of women.
Arundhati Roy, Corporate power, women, and resistance in India today
Interviewed by David Barsamian for International Socialist Review.
I NEED FEMINISM BECAUSE WHEN A FEMALE MEMBER OF THE IRISH PARLIAMENT COMPLAINED SHE WAS A BIT COLD A MALE MEMBER LAUGHED AND SAID HE’D “WARM HER UP” AND PULLED HER ONTO HIS LAP
WHILE UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ALCOHOL
IN THE PARLIAMENT CHAMBERS
WHILE THE OTHER MALE MEMBERS JUST STOOD AROUND WATCHING AND LAUGHING
IN THE MIDDLE OF A DEBATE ON THE REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS OF WOMEN*
IF YOU DON’T THINK IRELAND HAS A MAJOR SEXISM PROBLEM YOU’RE SERIOUSLY WRONG
Ok, so, let’s start with what a panic attack is. Your brain receives a cue from your surroundings that it interprets as DANGER based on some sort of past trauma (it could be anything, a scent, a sound, the color blue, a specific string of words, a familiar circumstance, a doritos wrapper, it could really be anything. i have a friend who gets panic attacks triggered by being in the same place he’s had panic attacks before because it causes his anxiety to spike because he’s so worried about having a panic attack that it causes a panic attack, i have a friend who has panic attacks when she gets too cold, i’ve had panic attacks by writing about abuse i’ve suffered because it pulled up vivid memories, etc).
So your brain receives a cue from your environment that says DANGER based on some sort of conditioning (typically relate to some sort of past trauma in some way, again, this could be almost anything, we don’t get to pick what traumas lead to that kind of conditioning) and sends all these signals to your body to start reacting as though there is some sort of serious DANGER going on that needs to be protected against. Your body starts pumping out all sorts of hormones and chemicals (like adrenaline and various stress hormones) in an attempt to prepare you to deal with whatever DANGER your brain has perceived. These chemicals and hormones cause cause things like increased heart rate, breathing issues, tummy troubles (because digestion gets shut down since the energy is theoretically needed elsewhere), hyperactive senses, a sort of tunnel vision or intense focus, etc.
So, that’s the kind of stuff that goes on during a panic attack just in general but it’s a little more complex than that. Most people have heard about the “flight or fight” response but that’s not actually all of it. In reality our minds and bodies respond to DANGER with a “flight, fight, freeze, or faint” response. The outward symptoms commonly associated with panic attacks like massive amounts of uncontrollable sobbing, physically shaking, screaming, an uncontrollable urge to move around or leave the scene, etc. are all more associated with “fight or flight.” But you can also freeze or faint. You can essentially shut down mentally, emotionally, and/or physically if that’s what your brain decides is best for your safety in that situation (we also don’t get to pick this, out brains do that without us, it can be fight, flight, freeze, or faint completely outside of our control) and that’s just as normal and even as common as the fight or flight kind of stuff. Disassociation is also part of this freeze or faint response.
It gets even more complex when an individual’s past history with regards to outward displays of emotion get taken into account. For instance, I’ve heard men and People of Color talk about how in our society their outward displays of emotions are considered unacceptable for various reasons and because of that they’ve been conditioned to not really have them and thus their panic attacks don’t have all those visible displays.
For me personally, part of the abuse I suffered from my father included hardcore shaming and physical battering as a response to ANY outward displays of emotion so it got to the point where it’s literally impossible for me to have any sort of outward display of emotion at all. Like, I still to this day can’t cry and I’m almost 30 and haven’t spoken to my father in 7 years. Because of that I don’t have panic attacks that are outwardly visible. I still have all of the physiological stuff - my heart rate spikes, my blood pressure increases to the point where I can hear my pulse ringing in my ears, I start to breath really fast, I get knots in my stomach, I have that inner “freak out” where I feel utterly terrified and entirely out of control, but if you were in my presence when that happened you wouldn’t have any idea any of that is going on because I’ve been conditioned to hide all of that through decades of abuse. I freeze and sometimes it takes me a really long time to get out of it. Sometimes I’m even capable of “behaving normally” during a panic attack. I can have a conversation or do the dishes or drive or otherwise act like everything’s fine because acting like everything is fine when I’m experiencing intense fear is a deeply ingrained survival instinct of mine. It’s something I have no control over, it just kicks in and I end up on autopilot. None of that makes my very real and very serious panic attacks any less real or any less valid. It’s just how my brain and body have been conditioned to respond to fear and trauma is all. We all have our stuff.
Anyway, I hope this helps and if you or anyone else has any further questions or would like to share anything feel free to send it along <3
I need white people to stop pretending consent was possible during slavery.
Stop lying to yourselves that those black cousins are the result of illicit love affairs & grasp that slaves could not say no.
When consent is not an option, when you’re only seen as 3/5ths of a human being & you have no legal standing? You can’t say yes.
I need white America to sit down for a sec. Look into the faces of black Americans with the same last names & figure it the fuck out.
Our ancestors were raped by your ancestors. Regularly. Some of the kids were treated kindly. Most were not. They were sold.
White mistresses punished the slaves for “tempting” master & congratulated themselves on that bloody work. Read the narratives.
Not the cleaned up ones either. Read Incidents in The Life of A Slave Girl & understand that Mammy was a victim, not the one who loved you.
She couldn’t care for her kids, couldn’t choose her husband or their father most of the time. She was a slave.
Millions of people died on the Middle Passage. Millions more died here at the hands of your ancestors. Own that.
Now you want to sing Kumbaya & keep oppressing our communities & erasing our contributions. Spare me the tired bullshit.
Male slaves fared no better. There’s a long history of them being raped, tortured & killed too. That was slavery. Stop romanticizing it.
Our children were fed to alligators as bait (feel free to look that up) died of starvation or exposure & that was slavery too. Yep, we were livestock & you use sickly livestock as bait.
Stop watching Gone With The Wind & fantasizing about beautiful plantations if you can’t accept what happened on those plantations.
House slaves had it better in the sense of access to food & possibly better treatment, but they were still slaves.
14 year old slave girls weren’t falling in love with the men who could beat them & everyone they loved to death.
Read the tales of enslaved women who killed their children to spare them. Read about people beaten to death as an example.
Sally Hemings could have left Jefferson in Paris. Of course her entire family was still in his power. And his “love”? Didn’t free her. Ever.
Go look at the pictures of former slaves backs. Whipped until they bled & left to scar so they were maimed for life & couldn’t run.
Also before you talk about the cleaned up narratives, remember that the people relating their stories knew lynching was always possible.
Records of slavery were deliberately destroyed so that former owners wouldn’t have to pay anyone.
That “peculiar institution” was generations of blood, pain, & terror. That’s what built America. Never forget that.
Now stop talking about anyone’s white ancestors like they deserve the fucking credit for the success of people descended from slaves.
American slavery began in 1619. June 19, 1865 was the last official day of slavery. Do the math on how long it takes to heal that wound.
After slavery was officially over? Black codes & Jim Crow laws followed. America’s history of oppression is longer than that of freedom.
Also before any d*mb motherfuckers land in my mentions. I have a degree in history. I will read you to filth & bury you in sources.
Trust & believe there is no country here for people who want to romanticize a system that is still grinding away at my community.
All this fluffy fucking talk about American history to coddle white kids feelings & engender patriotism? You won’t get it here.
My ancestors built this country, I served this country & I will tell the damned truth about this country. Don’t like it? Fuck you.
Now let me get in my feelings about slavery before Africans were brought here. Because we weren’t the first people enslaved.
We were deliberately sought out for our skill sets & resistance to disease. Know why we were resistant? We’d had contact for years.
All of that “My ancestors never owned slaves so it has nothing to do with me?” Go look at those NDN ancestors again. See how many were free.
While you’re in there checking that out? Look up those old country ancestors & see how many benefited from slavery indirectly.
Also while we’re talking about NDN relatives? Yo, learn a name besides Cherokee. Better yet, learn about the genocidal tactics they faced.
Look up immigrant groups becoming white in America. Find out who had to bleed so they could gain access to white privilege.
Let’s really talk about the Red Summer of 1919 & how it wasn’t an unusual occurrence. Tulsa, Rosewood? They were just famous.
Let’s talk about welfare & who could access it. Hell let’s talk about who is collecting more of it right now.
Let’s talk about the primary beneficiaries of affirmative action (spoiler! White women!) & what it means to attack black people instead.
Shit, let’s get into the Great Depression & the Great Recession & who is hurting the most financially through both.
Let’s talk about conditions on reservations, in the inner city, & the violence faced by POC who try to leave those areas.
Hell, let’s talk about why we don’t see shows that reflect the American population set in the past, present, or future.
Go read Columbus’ diaries & see what “civilization” really meant to the people he encountered.
For that matter go read up on King Leopold & the Congo. I’ll wait while you cry.
That’s the thing about whiteness as a social construct in America. It’s not about white people, it’s about white power over others.
When we’re talking about white privilege? We’re talking about what it takes to shape this society based on oppression.
America is a young country with a lot of power because of genocide, slavery, & continuing oppression. Individuals build institutions.
All of these conversations aren’t about bringing out white guilt, they’re about ending this institution developed over the generations.
Also let’s be clear that America is sick with this ish across the political spectrum. It may manifest differently but it exists everywhere.
Before I go, let me also suggest that people who are curious about anything I tweeted about take a tour through Google with terms.
It’s not that I won’t answer questions, but there are books out there that I think everyone should read on slavery, whiteness, & America.
Karnythia, laying it down with righteousness on Juneteenth — the truth about slavery and its lingering effects on America. (via skyliting)
I don’t want to see tl;dr no you ALL need to fucking read this. (via thisisnotblackhistorymonth)
I’m too “biracial” to hear this
*sits back and sips tea*
The concern for overly exposed young bodies may be well-intentioned. With society fetishizing girls at younger and younger ages, girls are instructed to self-objectify and see themselves as sexual objects, something to be looked at. A laundry list of problems can come from obsessing over one’s appearance: eating disorders, depression, low self-worth. Who wouldn’t want to spare her daughter from these struggles?
But these dress codes fall short of being legitimately helpful. What we fail to consider when enforcing restrictions on skirt-length and the tightness of pants is the girls themselves—not just their clothes, but their thoughts, emotions, budding sexuality and self-image.
Instead, these restrictions are executed with distracted boys in mind, casting girls as inherent sexual threats needing to be tamed. Dress restrictions in schools contribute to the very problem they aim to solve: the objectification of young girls. When you tell a girl what to wear (or force her to cover up with an oversized T-shirt), you control her body. When you control a girl’s body—even if it is ostensibly for her “own good”—you take away her agency. You tell her that her body is not her own.
When you deem a girl’s dress “inappropriate,” you’re also telling her, “Because your body may distract boys, your body is inappropriate. Cover it up.” You recontextualize her body; she now exists through the male gaze.
it’s also like… the idea is theoretically supposed to be about “making a better learning environment for everyone” except that’s just a giant load of bullshit. if the dress code regulations are all about what girls can and cannot wear then they’re only concerned with making the learning environment better for boys. forcing girls to be constantly self-conscious about their appearance, to deal with being called out by teachers for their shirt straps being too thin or their skirts being too short, and to put up with the objectification and male gaze this quote talks about makes the learning environment worse for girls. this sends a very clear message to all female students about who the school is really there for. it’s not for them and they know it.
can we stop acting like surfing porn is a natural normal healthy part of discovering your sexuality and developing a healthy sex life
if anything will fuck up and harm your concept of sex and sexuality it’s scrolling through pages upon pages of ‘hot blonde slut gets her ass fucked by daddy' and 'whore gets tied up and made to cum' while ads for 'mercilessly fucked girls in free monster porn' and '18 & Abused!' blink on both sides of the screen and fuck you if you're saying any different
[TW Sexual Assault]
I work at a concert venue and constantly get harassed by drunks customers and it’s just a part of the job but I once was working a Jimmy Buffet concert and had a (seemingly sober) 55-60 year old man pull me by the arm while I was trying to help another customer and move me until he could see behind me and them proceed to say “Ah, there’s a nice butt” and wink at me. I’m sixteen.
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tbh I’m really glad this post is taking over my dash. more ppl need to have this concept on their radar… if I had a quarter for every time I had to listen to some brogressive or manarchist or Feminist talk about how to steal groceries or whatever while throwing the low-wage workers held responsible for product loss under the bus and straight up saying they “didn’t care” bc “punishing corporations” and “refusing to pay for resources” that they COULD pay for, in order to make a point, was more important to them than low wage workers who are collateral damage.
Since I’m always wary of these turning into “breaking the rules is always bad”, posts, shoutout to my grocery store coworkers, who worked as slowly as possible, because working quickly led to unreasonable expectations for people on other shifts - people who might not be as young or able-bodied. Shoutout to my grocery store workers who put the unsalable but edible vegetables in a part of the back room not covered by cameras, those kept me alive. Shoutout to my coworkers in the deli who gave away as many “samples” as they could get away with, who labeled fried chicken buckets wrong, so people could pay for some hot food with food stamps. Shout out to that look that passed between us when we caught each other eating in the back room, and how we were suddenly friendly afterwards, cos we were both complicit. Shout out to the people who arranged for the used grease to be turned into fuel, the day old bakery and sell-by date meat to go to a food pantry, all against the rules. Shoutout to my cashiers who looked the other way as people as poor as we were stuffed their jackets full of things they needed.
(the universe runs on people breaking the rules)
Let’s also focus less on how Emma Watson’s taking parts in problematic films, which she seems to be doing largely because her managers tell her it’s the only way to make it past Harry Potter, and more on how James Franco, Seth Rogan, Jonah Hill Jay whatsisface, and Cahnning Tatum made uncomfortable sex jokes and rape jokes around her until she was so uncomfortable she left halfway through filming This is the End- but by contract had to still be in the movie.
Let’s talk about how Evangeline Lilly signed onto the Hobbit movies on the condition that her character not be in a love triangle, and everyone involved rewrote the character so that she was, and she couldn’t leave. Let’s talk about how actresses are signed into films whose final products are the opposite of what they want to be a part of, and still wind up on-screen playing terrible, problematic, sexist roles, or even being sexually harassed and assaulted while on set. Let’s talk about the implications of an industry where women have no control over the part they play or the story they’re used to tell, and are forced to make difficult decisions about which producers and directors will and won’t completely screw them over.