January 2012
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raggedyanndy:
Respecting Kids’ Bodily Boundaries and Teaching Importance of Consent: No Forced Hugs/Kisses
runicbasso:
thefremen:
Most of us can remember being pressured to just “suffer through it” from our own childhoods. Who doesn’t recall being forced to kiss “Great Aunt Edna” as a kid, or getting scratched by Uncle Bob’s beard as he leaned in for a squeeze? Or, being told to just...
December 2011
“We believe our case highlights institutionalised sexism within the police. It is...”
– Full statement from the eight women suing the Met Police, after the force sanctioned five undercover officers to deceive them into long-term intimate relationships.
The infiltration has spanned the past 30 years of environmental and social justice organising, with the longest relationship lasting 9...
Uncutting: I don't see how people can be against... →
tobekindisgood:
What’s the difference? Young boys are circumcised without their consent because it’s merely believed to be part of “being a man” a continuation of the harmful artificial ideal of “masculinity” that western culture forces on men. Because if my penis doesn’t look a certain way…
Cheerleader has to pay $45k for refusing to cheer... →
notforyoutobreak:
scar-lip:
welp, great.
Oh, this case. This fucking case…
“So you know what you do? You fight. You fight your heart and lungs out until you...”
– Katie, who is so important and so right. (via themyxomatosis)
I’m reblogging myself and I reblogged Kirra who is quoting me. My ego knows no bounds. BUT THIS IS IMPORTANT. (via redlipstick-lover)
After some of the bullshit I’ve put up with lately after calling people out… I really needed to hear...
“I want a future where women and girls get to be the subject of their own...”
– Jaclyn Friedman (ConsentFest talks about sex, and wants to add more voices | OpenFile)
Do Not Touch A Black Person's Hair Without...
white person: zomg is that your real hair?
black person: yes.
white person: what do they call it again, an..af-afro, right?
black person: that's correct
white person: wow...i wish i could have an afro. i just have limp dishrag hair, ha ha ha ha ha!
black person: good to know.
white person: so, um, can i touch it?
black person: absolutely not
white person: why not? :(
black person: because i don't want you to? because white people like yourself have a history of fetishizing and taking ownership of black bodies to suit your own twisted, racist doctrines? because your hands are dirty? because i don't know you?
white person (oblivious as fuck): racism is in the past! *touches* ooooh wowwwww! It's soft like a cloud! or cotton candy! do you wash it?
black person: BITCH, BACK THE FUCK UP, CUZ IMMA NEED YOU TO GET YO FUNKY PINK HANDS OUT MY HEAD CUZ U LOOKIN REAL PRESSED RIGHT NOW, YOU STANK SUCKA HEAUX, DON'T YOU EVA TOUCH MY HAIR AGAIN OR I SWEAH FO' GAWD I WILL SHANK YA ASS! NASTY ASS MOTHAFUCKIN DIRTY SLUTRAG, THAT'S WHY YO IGNANT ASS SMELL LIKE A WET DOG! how's that for a wash?
white person (bursts into tears): omg u people ARE racist!
Undercover police cleared 'to have sex with... →
notyourkinddear:
tahlalaliaaa:
thesexualintellectual:
anarchyagogo:
Sex was a tool to help officers blend in, the officer claimed, and was widely used as a technique to glean intelligence. His comments contradict claims last week from the Association of Chief Police Officers that operatives were absolutely forbidden to sleep with activists.
The claims follow the unmasking of undercover PC...
“TRIGGER WARNING: RAPE. A lubricated vagina does not mean that a woman consents...”
– TW: RAPE
Rape Crisis Cape Town Trust Statement on the #itsnotrapeif Twitter phenomenon | (via a-blog-called-everything)
“When your only female character exists to be battered and abused, that is lazy...”
– Monica Byrne.
Zing.
(via mehreenkasana)
This is my issue with the way rape is commonly portrayed.
(via she-hulk-smash)
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(via sweetdreamr)
“[TRIGGER WARNING: Rape] Fat women are treated as utterly undesirable in our...”
– Jaclyn Friedman, What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety (via khaleesi)
I think it’s a little scary how much this did not phase me while reading. The first part is how I lived my life until pretty recently, the second part is how my life has been since I...
“You want to show solidarity with women? Acknowledge their right to be sexual...”
– Unknown. (via slut-shaming)
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[MAJOR TRIGGER WARNING FOR RAPE, RAPE APOLOGY,... →
sanityscraps:
I remember this. I watched this and somehow didn’t vomit all over my keyboard.
When a random person publicly admits to having committed rape the entire community, in the moment, does not react negatively. It’s nice (wonderful, actually, and a step in the right direction) that people individually called the man out on it afterwards but in the moment that he revealed a story...
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“Looking in her eyes, I couldn’t come up with an answer to defend the exemptions...”
– Rick Perry has shifted his views on abortion farther to the right, citing a meeting with Rebecca Kiessling, a spokeswoman for Personhood USA who was adopted after her mother, a rape victim, tried and failed to abort her. (via cheatsheet)
You couldn’t find an answer because “rape victims have...
“My body is not a representation of my failures, sins, or mistakes. My body is...”
– Avoid Holiday Weight Shame — Ragen (danceswithfat)
vagabondaesthetics:
Pastor Licks Woman Vagina During Prayer
I can’t.
“Pastor Addy came to my house, asked me to pray with him and that he has had some bad revelations about me. While we were praying, he undressed me and started licking my vagina ….” These were the words of a 32-year-old woman who alleged that she was sexually assaulted by a pastor at Omanjor near Sowutuom, a suburb of...
Anonymous asked: Different anon. It's fairly obvious someone has an unhealthy relationship with food if they are obese. They may have emotions problems that have lead to them eating too much. Or, they could have an addiction to food. Also, there are myriad problems that come with being obese, especially once you get so fat that you cannot exercise or move around hardly at all. If you're such an...
Anonymous asked: I'm also disgusted with everything on that list. The only thing I want to say is that we should focus less on the health of fat people & more on accepting them regardless of looks/health. Their health is none of our business, just like the health of very skinny people. If you're very fat/obese, it's likely that you're living an unhealthy lifestyle. This is a fact, &...
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so, reformed abusers
desliz:
I was going to post a personal account, but realized I am not ready to do that. So here’s some bullet points:
1. Many modern feminists are terrified of being classed as man-hating, prudish dykes, so there is a tendency to fawn over “reformed” men and “male feminists”. It is not surprising that many of the men who insert themselves into these spaces tend to be excellent manipulators and...
crushtor asked: I am a man, and I was raped by a woman. Does that mean your bullshit misandrist definition of "rape culture" must extend to women that rape men too? Are women rapists active participants in your "rape culture" or are they part of the classic feminist fallback straw-man argument, "victims" of it?
“Eight percent of college men have either attempted or successfully raped. Thirty...”
– Margo Maine, Ph.D. (Body Wars)
There was a time that, as a person of the male persuasion, seeing this quote made me really mad. It made me mad that women would assume that I was a rapist; it made me mad that rape was becoming ‘my problem’; it made me mad because, frankly, I didn’t think it was...
“No man is in any real physical danger on the internet— or even in real life —...”
– Hugo Schwyzer, on the use of the term “male bashing” (via komboloi)
“Misogyny is a systematic and institutionalized form of bigotry and oppression...”
– My response to a man asking “can’t we all just be friends?” and “isn’t misandry just as bad as misogyny?” (via sixtyforty)
ugh I want to staple this to the “what about the menz??!” faux-feminist guys on my course.
(via kitschy-kat)
*slow clap*
(via jaguar-paw)
“Of course, the other side of the coin isn’t much better; being dismissed for the...”
– Nerds and Male Privilege (via gematriya)
jhameia:
jemimaaslana:
moxielicious:
Men Often Misread Women’s Sexual Cues
Are you laughing yet? A short study was done with US undergrads, here are the “conclusions”
Men who wanted a short-term sexual encounter were more likely to overestimate a woman’s desire for them.
Men who believed they were “hot” also thought the women were hot for them, but men who were actually considered...
“I think women are encouraged to be into sex, but we’re encouraged to be into sex...”
– Clarisse Thorn (Interview with a sex-positive feminist — Feministe)
“( (TW RAPE) )In fact, what’s most troubling about this...”
– Jaclyn Friedman | Girl on Girl Victim Blaming Action (via sparkamovement)
“I don’t care what you’re doing or how old you are or who it’s with, if a girl...”
– My mom, to my younger brother. (via rose-colored-sunglasses)
This is DEFINITELY something that should be included in the sex talk and in sex education.
(via fuckyeahsexeducation)
*girl/boy/person
(via powerpantsuitpower)
hope!
karnythia:
Nearly 1 in 5 Women in U.S. Survey Report [Rape] | NYTimes.com
mohandasgandhi:
stfurapeculture:
I amended the title up there because it was actually incorrect. One in 5 women in this study reported rape. A far greater number reported sexual assault that did not meet the study’s definition of rape. Actual report is here if anyone wants to check it out. It should also be noted this...
The Muscular Female Body Under Scrutiny
gamesandtrips:
I read some articles written by men in the fitness industry explaining the phenomenon of women being accused of looking too muscular or worrying that they might look too muscular. It was adorable, like watching children develop superstitious causality theories based on incomplete evidence. Women, these men posit, develop neuroses about their bodies because they look at women’s...
“The thing that frightens man about homosexuality is that they think about a man...”
– (via nobodyunderstandsus)
Man
whatfreshhellisthis:
I’m really tired of the prefix “Well, consensually anyway.” being so applicable.
“Someone grabbed my ass for the first time last night! Well, consensually anyway.”
I’m eighteen years old and I am sick of being surprised when my consent is taken into account.
Ugh.
“[TW: rape, rape culture] Researchers gave a group of men and women quotes from...”
– Can you tell the difference between a men’s magazine and a rapist? | Jezebel
The full story includes quotes used in the study, and they are profoundly disturbing. We couldn’t read the whole list.
(via sparkamovement)
“talking about virginity is so annoying to me, and here’s why- firstly it’s used...”
– mutualaddiction responding to an ask saying she was hot because she was a virgin. (via wewantrevolutiongirlstylenow)
“Justice Department officials informed service providers around the state this...”
– State DOJ plans to reduce sex assault victim grants by 42.5 percent
honestly, every single republican in the state government from Scott Walker can fuck right off. right now. every single one of them.
(via soliloquize)
This was posted december 4th, it says the cuts aren’t final yet - they still...
So You Made A Rape Joke
ok4rj:
So you made a rape joke and now people are, like, really, really mad at you. I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt; maybe you were at a party and the booze made your common sense slip away from you or maybe you were making what you viewed as a flippantly humorous remark on Facebook. Either way, you probably didn’t mean any harm, right? So what’s the big deal?
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razingcomplacency:
Men Get Raped Too- A response. (TW)
stfusexists:
This is an incredible piece of writing on the phenomenon that has become a meme of sorts, “What about teh menz?”. I really enjoyed this, instant follow.
sexistculture:
You know, I just checked back in on this post, and something about this last response rubbed me the wrong way. Not because I disagree with anything it...
