February 2012
[TW rape]
stfurapeculture:
I received this in an email from anon:
I have been raped multiple times in my past. As a result, I feel, I have been a serial monogamist my entire adult life. I have been single for around 2 months now and my therapist is encouraging me to date. There was a guy I met recently who asked me out. It was actually pretty charming because it wasn’t a blatant sexual advance. I was...
January 2012
“I swear to god I will lose my mind if I hear the “sex sells” fallacy one more...”
– (via littlelightx)
sanityscraps:
Rape cases: why judicial training is needed
droppingthefbomb:
Alison Saunders, one of the country’s leading prosecutors, has drawn attention to the “enduring myths” that surround rape victims – and in so doing questioned the performance of the criminal justice system in its prosecution of rape cases.
One raised concern in particular addressed the attitude, pronouncements and...
Nearly 1 in 5 Women in U.S. Survey Report [Rape] |... →
stfurapeculture:
I amended the title up there because it was actually incorrect. One in 5 women in this study reported rape. A far greater number reported sexual assault that did not meet the study’s definition of rape. Actual report is here if anyone wants to check it out. It should also be noted this was a telephone survey that only included people 18 and older. Given the high number of...
“Although the racial laws forbade sexual contact between Nazis and the victims,...”
– Spots of Light: Women in the Holocaust (via the-holocaust)
“Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”....”
– angels-and-angles
this is an amazing quote
(via livelaughawesome)
Some resources for abuse survivors (rebloggable)
fromonesurvivortoanother:
http://healingquotes.tumblr.com/ (now abandoned, but a lot of good stuff there)
A few others: http://reasonsyoushouldntfuckkids.wordpress.com/ (the blog which inspired mine. She is amazing) http://sworddancewarrior.wordpress.com/
http://sexualabusesurvivors.tumblr.com/
http://riseandreclaim.tumblr.com/
http://reasonstohide.tumblr.com/
...
“Like most women, I currently live in a society where violence, harassment and...”
– Tiger Beatdown (via pnasty)
This is so relevant to everything.
(via mindyshabibti)
THIS THIS THIS.
This is what rape culture looks like.
(via silverqueen)
And so many men fucking do not get this.
(via northerndownpour)
[TW: abortion, pro-life, cissexist language]...
pridenotprejudice:
bebinn:
itsbeenayear:
I feel like I’ve been seeing a lot of pro-choice propaganda lately. You hear all the typical arguments, that the mom should have a say in her life… That the baby is not really alive… It would be worse off for the mom to have the baby because she cannot take care of the kid… etc etc…
How can people be so selfish? I mean, I’m a teen girl, I get it. I...
Project Unbreakable →
fromonesurvivortoanother:
Photos and stories of abuse survivors with the things that their abusers said to them. There’s a lot of stuff here that breaks down rape culture by showing it as much more complicated than the burden of “no” on the victim.
[Serious trigger warning for rape, sexual abuse, child abuse, incest]
“My point is that feminists are not biological determinists. Feminists are the...”
– ‘Feminists are Sexist’ - Features - The F-Word (via learntoofly)
“Why are you afraid of women?” I asked a group of men.
“We’re afraid they’ll...”
– Margaret Atwood (via goforthandagitate)
"Rape" is not a word used to describe winning,...
TRIGGER WARNING: Child rape
youarenotyou:
rubyvroom:
so-treu:
sexartandpolitics:
anoldladyonfire:
Please do not click “More” if you do not want to see Hugo Schwyzer’s reaction to Joe Paterno’s death.
And … you don’t. Not really.
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It’s ridiculously paternalistic to try to remind us (who is this douche’s audience? Like seriously?) that monsters are people. Who does he think forgets that? Who is he to...
“11. Bring consent out of the bedroom. I think part of the reason we have trouble...”
– Holly over at The Pervocracy with an excellent 101 post on Consent Culture. Read the whole thing.
I used to want people to chide me into doing things because in some twisted way it meant that they really did want me around (because otherwise they were just being polite). I’ve started to get past...
If I see one more Facebook post revering Joe...
femmesandfamily:
[tw sexual assault]
ethiopienne:
I will scream. No, he did not “die of heartbreak” because his “legacy was robbed from him by those who associate him with the sex scandal.” This swine knowingly covered up a giant RAPE scandal—no, not a “sex” scandal—and I’m supposed to cry tears because he’s dead and Penn State lost a “legend”?! No. Fuck that. I will save my tears for the...
100% Pro Life -- TW: RAPE, RAPE APOLOGY
mstashers:
prochoiceornochoice:
prettybeingme:
I have read a lot of pro choice arguments today and I have to say the “If abortion becomes illegal women will do it anyway but they will have unsafe back alley abortions and possible die from it” argument is the most hilarious so far.
If someone decides to shove a coat hanger up their vagina to kill a baby then I could care less if she died...
sanityscraps:
[TW: rape] Rick Santorum: A baby created out of rape is still “the gift of human life”.
shannonnagig:
stfuconservatives:
timekiller-s:
swellshark:
siuilaruin:
spoken like a true rape apologist
Holy crap I can’t get over how full of shite Frothy Mix is.
“See rapists aren’t so bad, they’re just trying to give people a gift.”
Y’know I dislike all of the...
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raggedyanndy:
I can’t remember what I’ve forgotten: Overheard at a cafe today;
catamite:
flirtingwithparadox:
TW RAPE AND VIOLENCE
tahlalaliaaa:
tumblinfeminist:
“I just wanted to say to him: If its ok for you to rape me because I was dressed like a ‘slut/skank/ho/whore’; then is it ok for me to shoot/stab/maim/kill you because you are a male who looks threatening? ...
I've just read an article on pre-legalised...
ballroom-communism:
When I was about 16 I was talking to my mum about abortion, and it was about the time I really decided that I didn’t want children, and I said something along the lines of the fact that I would have to be really careful not to get pregnant because otherwise I’d have to have an abortion. Then my mum said “well, just so long as you know that a hot bath and a bottle of gin...
“The most common responses a woman can expect in an argument – especially online...”
– Harris O’Malley, Nerds and Male Privilege.
The one that always threw me was the ‘jealous’ one, especially when it’s said to women who are pointing out the constant sexualization women are put through online. ‘Yeah, I’m so jealous of not having the /honor/ to be treated like a fucktoy by you...
“Rape is not aggressive sexuality, it is sexualized aggression.”
– Audre Lorde (via verycunninglinguist)
verycunninglinguist:
Christian Classmates Threaten Girl with Eternal Rape in Hell for Removing Prayer from School
sixtyforty:
Rhode Island Cranston High School West student Jessica Ahlquist successfully sued her school to have a Christian prayer mural removed from the state-funded public establishment. Her argument, a textbook case of separation of church and state, was sufficient to...
karnythia:
Joyeux Noëlle: Correct me if I’m wrong here. (HT: @SaynaTheSpiffy.)A person - let’s…
joyeux-noelle:
Correct me if I’m wrong here. (HT: @SaynaTheSpiffy.)
A person - let’s call them “X” - is in charge of a young woman. X does not allow the young woman to date or have sex; her “purity” virginity must be preserved. In fact, X strictly limits the amount to which the young woman...
Big Brother Brazil: Rape case broadcast on...
innuendoblues:
An unconscious woman is taken to a bed by a man, who then proceeds to caress her. The people watching the cameras at the time can testify, as would anyone else watching it at home, to the fact that the woman was clearly asleep: she barely moves and, when she does, it is solely because of the aggressor’s movements beneath the blanket. She has no reaction at all. When he gets up,...
Let me just begin by saying,
mollay:
theforthrightfeminist:
This is what my pepper spray looks like. For the record, I didn’t buy it for myself, my parents got it for me. As I was walking out of Wal Mart tonight, without it, it donned on me on how fucked up it is. Not only the fact that I need the weapon itself, but it’s color.
It’s like, we’re trying to make rape culture cutesy. Same goes for pink tazers. Pink...
“[TW: street harassment] Have you ever had a guy come up to you — on the...”
– Tiger Beatdown › CHRONICLES OF MANSPLAINING: Professor Feminism and the Deleted Comments of Doom (via lostgrrrls)
Happens all the time on Fetlife. On my profile it explicitly says I’m not looking to meet guys, yet they still message me. They all start the same way. “Don’t write me off right...
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I also think it's interesting how guys respond to...
eyesfullofketchup:
Over the last year or so I lost about 40 pounds, became more stylish, and stopped getting acne as often. Back when I was “unattractive” there would be a few guys who were into me and absolutely would not give up. One guy would text me every month or two over the course of three years to see if I was suddenly interested. Nevermind that I turned him down every time, right? If he...
“[TW: street harassment] Have you ever had a guy come up to you — on the...”
– Tiger Beatdown › CHRONICLES OF MANSPLAINING: Professor Feminism and the Deleted Comments of Doom (via lostgrrrls)
“Is it frustrating to be viewed with suspicion merely because of one’s sex? Heck...”
– In Rape Culture, All Men Are Guilty Until Proven Innocent
(via daniel-plainview)
[warning: discussion of rape culture and victim...
marxisforbros:
A woman walks to work one day while wearing a short skirt and a singlet. As she passes a group of men at a corner they holler and call her lewd names. She tells her co-workers and they say that those men are pigs. The next day the woman walks to work while wearing jeans and a hoodie, and to her surprise she passes the men unnoticed. Her co-workers tell her that they probably...
[TW rape culture, rape joke]
stfurapeculture:
found this on imgfave today and just… not cool. i don’t even get how that could seem remotely funny to anyone and how it made it to the most popular images.
STFURC: Seen it before, still hate it. I’m not surprised it’s a top image though. People love rape jokes, for reasons unknown to me.
“[I]t is illegal for [people] to go topless in most cities, yet you can buy a...”
– Violet Rose, in Three Steps to Better Sex (via muffdiver)
This reminds me of the post going around which contrasted the pathologizing of public breastfeeding with the gratuitous, objectifying images of women’s breasts that can be found in advertising.
The legal and social message is that our...
“I knew I hadn’t committed any crime. But the sense of sadness—tinged with...”
– The Accidental Rapist — The Good Men Project
Hugo Schwyzer, folks. This is an essay in which a man tells his readers about how he willfully and repeatedly disregarded his partner’s negative responses to his sexual advances, and then insists that she played an equal part in the situation because she...
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Blog Comment of the Day
thecurvature:
Trigger Warning for children who report sexual abuse being called liars
Have you ever worked with children in a professional context? I’m guessing based on this blogpost that the answer is “no.”
If you had, you would know that kids tell stories. They have no compunction about spreading lies about other people and give no thought to the consequences of those lies.
It’s a shame...
“Anti-choice activists are trying to use women’s best tool of empowerment:...”
– Adriana Pérez, Abortion and Sexuality, Under Attack (via moriartree
)
I’m putting this here because I believe a big part of all this anti-abortion bullshit is an attempt to remove people’s abilities to consent to what happens with their bodies which is very clearly a part of rape...
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Rape Jokes
The other night my partner/significant other/boyfriend told me a rape joke that he thought was hilarious without even realizing it was a rape joke and it was so insidious that it actually took me a few moments to figure out just how to explain it to him.
There’s this sex “position” that’s been joked about a lot in recent years that’s essentially rape. There are...
microaggressions:
A bouncer/security guard at my favourite bar keeps touching my arm and back as he checks my ID.
He’s a big man, and I’m a petite 24 year old female rape victim. It’s not ‘significant’ enough to report, but reminds me I’m not safe anywhere, with anyone. I will always be regarded as lesser than male and therefore free to touch and be expected to take it as a compliment.
feminist historian: shit sexists say to women →
feministhistorian:
[TW: rape culture]
mswyrr:
I became a feminist because I was sick of hearing things like “if you make men angry, they’ll knock your block off (& you’ll have no one to blame but yourself).” I was tired of hearing “boys will be boys” and “they can’t help it” and “a man has his pride” every…
“There is absolutely a difference between a ‘rape joke’ and a ‘joke about rape...”
– Charlie - whatfreshhellisthis.tumblr.com (via mysalivaisgodsgifttotheworld) 