March 2012
[TW sexual assault, abuse]
stfurapeculture:
Anon asked:
My ex girlfriend (for clarification, I am also female) with whom I was in a long distance relationship with used to coerce me into phone sex; I never got off but she would ask me to make noises for her loudly even when she knew people sleeping nearby would hear. I spent some time at her apartment once and she was pushy sometimes about asking for mutual...
February 2012
On Being Fat and Romantically Interested in Other...
fatbodypolitics:
bigfatfeminist:
[TRIGGER WARNING: Rape]
Look, it’s really fucking hard to be a fat person who happens to be romantically interested in other people, particularly when those other people are cis het dudes.
It’s hard because when you grow up fat, you grow up believing that you’re not ever going to be attractive to anyone. You don’t even do this on purpose - the world does it...
Police officer punches rape victim in the face and... →
happyfeminist:
all the trigger warnings.
don’t read the comments don’t read the comments
DO NOT READ THE COMMENTS.
anyways, comment section aside this is super fucked up and awful and scary and a good reminder of why i like to stay inside and away from people.
Watch*TW slut shaming, denigrating sex work/sex workers, general inflammatory douchbaggery*
justinspoliticalcorner:
(via Limbaugh: Student Denied Spot At Contraception Hearing Says “ She Must Be Paid To Have Sex,“ So She’s A “ Slut“ And “ Prostitute“)
LIMBAUGH: What does it say about the college coed Susan Fluke [sic], who goes before a congressional committee and essentially says that she must...
Guide to rape apologists
notanotherlesbianblog:
**Trigger Warning** Rape apologists, rape naysayers, rape deniers
Mr. What About The Men “The real problem here is all these false rape accusations that are destroying our society! 90 million men are falsely accused of rape every second! A woman just has to sort of mumble a word starting with ‘r’ and a man instantly gets a life sentence! There are no instances on...
IMPORTANT PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT *tw rape,...
desliz:
When I said that we need to take responsibility for ensuring that we do not participate in the sexual exploitation of minors, I was NOT:
1. Implying that children do not have sexual feelings or desires.
2. That children are wrong for having sexual feelings or desires.
3. That children having consensual, non-abusive sexual contact with their peers (in maturity AND age) is wrong.
It is...
It's kind of like talking to dudes about how rape...
baddominicana:
liquornspice:
And the good ones say shit like, “Oh, wow. I never thought about you having feelings like I have feelings. That you’d care if someone touched you without asking.”
I am glad people learn these things, but I am horrified that me being human needed to be taught in the first place…
and then this is the sentiment that leads folks to be all “but you need to be nice if...
*TW Rape* How our institutions keep failing women →
“When we complain about men raping, abusing, harassing, and refusing us our human...”
– Unknown. (via futureabortiondoctor, inherhipstheresrevolutions) (via aoawaywego) (via she-hulk-smash) (via loveyourchaos) (via yanettcanhazsoul) (via baddominicana) (via nohunnylovesyou) (via jungle-red) (via fatbodypolitics)
“I swear to god I will lose my mind if I hear the “sex sells” fallacy one more...”
– (via littlelightx)
Yes.
(via psdo)
um also there are pretty much only ever cispeople involved in these things ever and that’s poop
(via madziontist)
on re-blogging porn
bb-goose:
ineffableshe:
i find it really upsetting on many levels w hen internet feminists get so burned out calling each other out on relatively silly, western issues (the usage of words such as “crazy,” demisexuals appropriating queerness) that they completely laugh off legit critiques about the of spread of (uncredited) fetish porn images on social networking sites such as tumblr.
you know...
“Contemporary feminism cut itself off from history and bankrupted itself when it...”
– Camille Paglia (via stay-delicious)
Today in “Quotes that Demonstrate Why Camille Paglia is Awful”.
(via stfufauxminists)
I would love to know what history Camille Pagila is reading if she thinks it supports her claim that there is no male privilege, women aren’t viewed as sex-objects, and women...
karnythia:
Just Smith.: On ‘Teaching Men’
masteradept:
fatandgeeky:
77825225672443:
hupsoonheng:
[TW for rape]
just-smith:
captainjackjohnson:
just-smith:
Let’s teach men not to rape.
We should teach men that no means no.
Excuse me?
I can’t speak for all men, but I have morals. From experience, I would also hazard a guess that most men do. Unless you’re suggesting...
“(((TRIGGER WARNING RAPE))) Asexuals are very vulnerable to a certain kind of...”
– An Asexual Map for Sex Positive Feminism (via fivetail)
This.
I am almost certain that I would not have been sexually abused if I hadn’t been asexual. I wouldn’t have been blindsided by the reality of sexual desire like I was, because I would have experienced it myself. I wouldn’t have been told I...
Discrimination against White people is not Racism....
dank-potion:
It’s horrible, nobody’s denying that, but its hard to be empathetic when you equate your isolated incident to centuries upon centuries of degradation, rape, genocide, colonialism, imperialism etc. etc. that we and our ancestors have experienced.
To do so is ridiculous and insulting, especially when there are other words, such as prejudice that are less loaded and more appropriate.
...
[trigger warning: body shaming, misogyny, genital...
fromonesurvivortoanother:
…was looking at porn as a cis male teenager.
For some reason I’ve always had a fascination with labia. I just think they are an absolutely beautiful part of the human body. But I found that the porn out there overwhelmingly prizes small to invisible labia as the standard. Why are things like that? I wondered. Who decided that one type of vagina is more or less...
katie-alicyn:
so this is a bit more personal (and lengthy) than i usually post here, but it wants to be voiced:
anon and i are making out on the couch. i’m already topless. we are being completely ridiculous. he tugs my pants off while i’m updating facebook with one of his more outlandish statements: “He’s whispering, ‘I don’t have clown herpes.’ At me. I’m terrified.” he nearly tugs me off...
Dear everyone who uses "molest" to mean "engage in...
blackamazon:
ethiopienne:
Stop it. That’s not what that word means. Thanks, A survivor
AMEN and HALLELUJAH
Lemme say this again for those who didn't catch it...
ethiopienne:
daniellemertina:
ethiopienne:
SURVIVORS. DO. NOT. NEED. YOUR. INPUT. [TW: sexual assault, domestic violence] I cannot tell you how many times I’ve found the courage to speak about what happened to me when I was younger only to hear “…you know you should’ve reported that, right?” or “so you didn’t say anything? what’s wrong with you?” or “well maybe if you had done X or Y or Z...
And Now, A Public Service Announcement
razingcomplacency:
I know I’ve talked about this phrase before on this blog, but I feel I haven’t entirely made my feelings clear on it. So, free of charge, here’s a Public Service Announcement from me.
“a key that unlocks many locks is a good key, but that a lock that can be unlocked by many keys is a bad lock”.
This phrase is always directed toward women by people trying to justify their...
minionier:
The “Dominant Sexual Paradigm” and Demisexuality
greenchestnuts:
TW corrective rape
If you live in a world where a woman making a declaration that she is generally uninterested in penises fits the “dominant sexual paradigm,” I want to move there.
If you live in a world where a man making a declaration that he is generally uninterested in vaginas fits the “dominant sexual...
“Stop degrading the act of sex by calling it “opening your legs.”
I’m so sick...”
– flowersarebetterthanbullets on This Post (I made this a quote, because the original picture with text was visually offensive to my eyes. These pro-life people need to take a graphic design class.)
also it’s totally possible to have all kinds of sex with one’s legs closed and “keep...
so there seem to be quite a few people who are...
mstashers:
safe-legal-abortion-is-prolife:
[tw: brief discussion of rape and rape culture]
i have seen a shocking number of people who seem to believe that by giving consent to receive abortion services, people have waved their right to decline other medical procedures.
let me preface this post by saying that i tend to find most analogies infuriatingly unhelpful at best and dangerously...
[TW: rape]
sanityscraps:
annahimali replied to your post: [TRIGGER WARNING: RAPE] but the probe isnt for sexual reasons, so y should it matter? you hafta basically probe ur vagina with a tampon anytime you have ur period.
rape is very often not for sexual reasons either.
This is also true. It’s most often an act of power and violence.
Ugh! Not only is rape virtually NEVER for sexual reasons at all but...
Petition to remove Alexander Ryking as editor of... →
ohfuckitsoprah:
stfuconservatives:
thoseboringpolitics:
stfuconservatives:
steviemcfly:
The goal is 1,000 signatures. Please sign and reblog, because we should not have someone who is an unrepentant sexist and rape apologist, who heaps praise upon men who threaten to beat and rape women, in an editorial position here.
DONE.
I remember when he told me to kill myself for disagreeing...
“On a somewhat serious note today because of a conversation the other day:
I...”
– You Didn’t Thank Me For Punching You in the Face « Views from the Couch (via golden-notebook)
Oh my gosh, I knew this would somehow make it here. This is my friend’s blog, and she’s pretty amazing. And this is soooo the truth.
(via goldenheartedrose)
TW: Domestic violence
goldenheartedrose:
inuus:
Man makes joke about how he’d hit rihanna too because of her music
I tell man joke is not funny
Man tells me to get the fuck over it and that he is more of a feminist than most women
I tell man that having lived through domestic violence, i’m probably not going to find it funny
Man says that if i’m going to get nowhere in life if i’m so fragile, to toughen up and...
baddominicana:
rereading some of pablo neruda has me shook. abuse culture references/apologism by way of beautiful words can seem like romance. :/
cue the “im so passionately in love w you, ima try to rape you” novela scenes. thats NOT NORMAL OMFG
i wont deny theres an allure to the slightly dominant, cocky macho love, but can we draw the line where my personhood is in danger PLEASE?
ive...
That awkward moment when a dude-bro rape apologist...
stfuhypocrisy:
Then says that, “If you go into a jungle, and a lion eats you, it’s your own fault”
Uh… way to compare men to animals acting on instinct, douchebro.
This morning.
Her: ugh I just got raped at the beauty supply. Do you know how much I just spent!
Me: you probably didn't get raped though.
Her: well you know what I mean! My ticket was so expensive!
Me: yeah. That's what I mean too. You probably didn't get raped, though.
Her: well why can't I say it? I paid a lot! Its like being raped!
Me: ...
[TW rape culture]
stfurapeculture:
stfuconservatives:
dreams-from-my-father:
So, some white feminists found it appropriate to post the picture of a battered Rihanna to make their point????? WHAT THE FUCKING HELL??? You spend hours talking about trigger this, trigger that but have so little respect for a BLACK WOMAN victim of abuse that you are ready to post a STOLEN picture of her. Rihanna said several times...
“Sex-negative messages don’t keep people from having sex. They keep people from...”
– Sex-Negative Education and the Spectre of Rape « Sex Positive Activism (via anorable)
Alleged rape victim arrested in Ireland for... →
cocothinkshefancy:
* trigger warning.
Not only is the title of this story so directly misogynistic and victim blaming, but the story itself is a prime example of the countless ways rape victims are let down by the legal system.
My hearts breaks for this woman.
“Rape culture is telling girls and women to be careful about what you wear, how...”
– I might just copy and paste this so I can have this perfect answer ready when people say things like “but how does this “rape culture” actually affect women?” (via holdmecloser-tonydanza)
This. THIS. Read it. Now read it again. Now the next time you victim-blame, or rag on women for any of the...
Women do not get raped because they were wearing...
The “Wearing-Down Approach” to Consent →
On use of "stalking"
femmesandfamily:
[tw stalking, sexual assault, non-consent]
In popular culture, the word “stalking” has come to represent a lot more than actual stalking. It has come to stand for being really into something, visiting someone/something a lot, or spending a lot of time on one thing. In blogging communities it is used all the time.
I stalked her all night.
Sorry I keep stalking you.
I...
School playground 'rape tag' sparks concern [TW... →
goldenheartedrose:
nothing-rhymes-with-ianto:
avatarsnowy:
meggannn:
aimmyarrowshigh:
missatralissa:
Children in a Minnesota elementary school were found to be playing a game of freeze tag which they had dubbed “rape tag.” Instead of “tagging” someone to unfreeze then, the kids were having to hump each other.
We live in a day and age where school children are now using rape as a...
“I don’t care what you’re doing or how old you are or who it’s with, if a girl...”
– My mom, to my younger brother. (via rose-colored-sunglasses)
This is DEFINITELY something that should be included in the sex talk and in sex education.
(via fuckyeahsexeducation)
Same with if a boy says no!
But really, my kids are going to get the most comprehensive sex talk ever.
(via...
feministmedia:
Why I Will Always Side With Rape Accusers Before Knowing the “Facts”
stfuconservatives:
(trigger warning for rape, sexual abuse, rape culture)
14kgoldnyc:
safercampus:
Yesterday, prosecutors decided that they won’t press charges against Greg Kelly, son of police commissioner Ray Kelly. He was accused of raping a woman—I wrote about it here. I sounded pretty sure I believed...
Dear everyone remotely connected to Jezebel:
stfurapeculture:
keepyourboehneroutofmyuterus:
panasonicyouth:
Trigger warning: rape, sexual assault, general grossness of all humanity
anedumacation:
Now would be a great time to resign in protest.
What they just did, which was, let me remind you, posting screencaps of a woman’s rape that was uploaded to youtube, that goes so far beyond the pale of human decency….
I cannot believe they...
“[TW: Rape, sexual assault] I’m tired of being treated like shit by you mean...”
– The Amazing Atheist
No commentary needed, really.
(via unknowablewoman)
I don’t suggest reading the link. It’s completely disgusting.
(via pridenotprejudice)
this shit happens in real life. what the fuck?! 