June 2012
“We have to quit defining ourselves solely in relation to dudes. Like, ‘I am not...”
– Lindy West on boner triangulations (from Jezebel)
lol @ “plus a threatening commitment to feminism” too real// too r33L.
(via pregnant-teen-mom)
May 2012
“Those who subvert social norms are, ostensibly, people who have forgotten that...”
– So Michel Foucault and Jeremy Bentham walk into an elementary school cafeteria* via the Two Whole Cakes blog by Lesley Kinzel (via transformfeminism)
“We’ve had a number of comments from guys who’ve in essence said in here that...”
– This comment thread (via azurewren)
Why Women Need Iron
gamesandtrips:
Women need iron. Not the vitamin. The barbell.
We are trained by the world around us to have fucked up ideas about our bodies; iron unfucks them.
We are supposed to be as thin as possible, as small as possible, perhaps until we disappear; iron teaches us to take up space.
We are taught that the only good direction for the scale to go is down, and to agonize ritualistically...
“You want to say “Hi” to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react?...”
– an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via cuntlovin)
Gender and Sexuality Self-Identification Survey →
bittergrapes:
genderandsexualityawareness:
Take my survey! It coverse gender and sexual self-identifications and contains the beginning of a fetish/interest/kink survey. I’ll devise a more comprehensive fetish/interest/kink survey in the future.
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheet/viewform?formkey=dGZSZEp0NnZFcEtzcnY4LXBOUmM1enc6MQ
PLEASE REBLOG! THANKS!
Missing objectum-sexual and...
“Simply put: you do not get to build a magazine around making women feel...”
– Real Quick: Glamour is shocked. I mean eviscerated. I mean shocked. « Two Whole Cakes (via grrrlstudies)
“[T]he fact that we’re still talking about the overemphasis on looks means that...”
– “What We’re Really Talking about When We Talk about Hillary Clinton Without Makeup” - Erin Gloria Ryan (via makingfists)
A third of women have considered quitting work... →
40% have been touched in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable, such as a slap on the bottom or hand on the thigh
bad-dominicana:
theskepticalwhale:
bad-dominicana:
and it makes me think on the whole “youre making me suffer by not reciprocating my love”
its a big ol guilt trip. how am i making you suffer by simply goin on w my life however i please, independent of you? by simply living and not caring what you want me to be doing for you? i am not here for you.
i dont deny you may be suffering but i...
whoneedsfeminism:
I need feminism because there are too many men who react with anger and behave as though they are being personally victimised when women express that they somtimes feel unsafe around some men, or feel frustrated that some men expect sex in return for kindness or free drinks. Everyone knows that ‘not every man is like that’, but personal experience and society as a whole force...
I've seen a lot of posts lately on street...
saneoldsameold:
I’m not going to address the ‘white girls get it too omg’ bullshit because they do, but it’s always different. I’m writing this as a woman of color who’s experienced street harassment more times than I can count.
First off, I think people need to realize that this isn’t just basic misogyny when it comes to women of color. It’s misogyny and whiteness showing both their ugly faces...
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“If we teach women that there are only certain ways they may acceptably behave,...”
– Harriet J on Another post about rape
Shattering truth.
(via reconnect-restore-rewild)
this post is…giving me life.
(via bad-dominicana)
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““Fat women are treated as utterly undesirable in our culture [and] are often...”
– - Jaclyn Friedman in: What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety (via maiidofhorror)
TW: rape, rape culture, sexual assault, rape apologism, fat hate, fat shaming
Emotional Abuse Awareness →
fromonesurvivortoanother:
found this today. looks like a good resource.
The Safe Space Network
bustygirlcomics:
stfuconservatives:
safespacenetwork:
Links
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Trans*:
http://www.transhousingnetwork.com/
http://genderedintelligence.tumblr.com
http://t-r-a-n-s.tumblr.com/
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“Female toplessness is legal in a lot of places in the US (although not where I...”
– The Pervocracy: My boobs want to be free. (via sexisnottheenemy)
Friend Zone
alimarko:
feminiism:
It’s true, just because a woman is your friend, that does not mean she owes you sex. But if you want more than friendship and she’s not open to more than that, you have every right in the world to express sadness and disappointment all over the fucking internet if that’s what you choose to do. Your feelings are valid no matter how much feminists try to shame you for having...
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More Reasons You Shouldn't Fuck Kids: Reason #97:... →
Content: sexual abuse, rape culture, rape, sexual assault, victim blaming
morereasonsyoushouldntfuckkids:
A whole lot of the dialogue and literature surrounding sexual abuse and rape tends to use the term “survivor” to describe us. I use survivor in the literal and emotional sense; I survived suicide. I survived sexual abuse and almost becoming a monster myself. I survived losing my sense of...
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I need feminism because
TW - rape jokes, sexual harassment, rape culture
whoneedsfeminism:
I should not be a victim of sexual harassment because I am a woman with red hair. I also need feminism because, as a survivor of sexual assault, I should not be the butt of a “joke” like this:
And I need feminism because there should not be people defending “jokes” like this.
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queen-supreme-deactivated201206 asked: I actually have another question. I've never discussed this with anyone, ever. but I'm not sure if I was raped. my boyfriend at the time wanted to have sex one night. I kept saying how I didn't want my roommate to hear. he kept saying he wouldn't and wouldn't really let it go. and we had sex. I can't really remember how I reacted during. but I do remember that once he...
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queen-supreme-deactivated201206 asked: this may sound odd, but I was wondering if you or any of your followers would have any articles or anything to read involving a man harassing a woman, but not sexually. I'm interested because I broke up with my ex months ago, am with someone else, which he knows, and he continues to email me after I've blocked him from any other form of communication. I simply cannot block his email....
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“Prior to this year, even Republicans by and large felt that tacitly endorsing...”
– Amanda Marcotte on the Republican nonsense over the VAWA (via greaterthanlapsed)
TW - domestic abuse, anti-immigrant hate, sex trafficking, abuse apologism, and general awfulness
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The Short Walk Home
A good friend of mine, she’s actually my “friend spouse” which basically means she’s my life-partner in a non-romantic/platonic way, lives about 3 blocks away from me so I often walk over there when I visit. I usually stay late so the walk home is always unpleasant. Even though it’s only 3 blocks away I’m always freaked out, hyper-aware, completely scared no...
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mamabirdmargaritas:
The Personal Responsibility of Living On a Rape Schedule in A Rape Culture
I went for a run after dinner tonight. It was a beautiful night. The moon was full and I wanted to unwind after a long week of work. I was responsible. I wore a bright, white vest so cars could see me. I took my big dog with me so I wouldn’t be alone. And I carried my cell phone and a bag of dog sh*t...
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“We let Willow cut her hair. When you have a little girl, it’s like how can you...”
– (On why he let Willow cut all of her hair off)
Read more: Will Smith On Allowing Willow To Cut Her Hair: ‘She Has Got To Have Command Of Her Body’ | Necole Bitchie.com
- He raises a really great point. What would it mean to believe very early that my body was mine. That it’s not for anyone or for...
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Study: The Objectification of Women Is a Real,... →
PROBLEM: Women’s bare bodies are on display in billboards, movie posters, and many other kinds of ads. Though plenty of studies have looked at the ramifications of this pervasive sexual objectification, it’s unclear if we see near-naked people as human beings or if we really do view them as mere objects.
METHODOLOGY: Researchers led by Philippe Bernard presented participants pictures of men and...
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DON'T tell me to put my cleavage away.
bad-dominicana:
communityandresistance:
[tw : rape]
you think i’m a disgrace to feminism or women because i let my breasts show?
well, FUCK YOU.
let me tell you something : reclaiming my sexuality and feeling power in that has helped me to overcome the trauma of my rape. taking charge of my body and feeling in control of my sexuality makes me feel safe. it’s part of my...
“If [rape is a synonym for rob or plunder] then I think President Obama is really...”
– Eric Boiling, adding to his ever-growing long list of offensive statements as a Fox News correspondent.
Video
(via reallyfoxnews)
Yes, because as we all know, when you buy someone a dinner at Applebee’s and a 4 dollar glass of wine, it means you have the right to rape them afterwards. *eyeroll*
...
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Let us talk about boobs. (tw sexual harassment)
raggedyanndy:
Let us talk about boobs.
And by “us,” I mean me. Specifically my boobs.
For most of the time I’ve had breasts, I haven’t particularly cared for them. My opinion of them went like this: I wish they were smaller and more manageable, but I mean it’s nice ‘cause boys like big boobs, right, and I’ve got great cleavage, so that’s worth it, I suppose, since I can’t magically make them...
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on the topic of male entitlement and space...
A wonderful submission by literaturelush - Content: street harassment
I was visiting a friend in Sydney recently. We had been out that night and were sitting waiting for the bus. We had talked to plenty of people randomly and they were all polite. But as we sat on a bench in central station two guys (persian) tried to talk to us as they were walking past (which means in a cocky manner that was...
whoneedsfeminism:
I need feminism because men shouldn’t think that when I say no to sex, I’m being a ‘tease’. I need feminism because me struggling underneath you shouldn’t mean I’m ‘just being playful’. I need feminism because me panting and sweating as I try to fight you off shouldn’t mean I’m ‘trying to turn you on’. I need feminism because I shouldn’t be seen as a sex object.
“Sex-negative messages don’t keep people from having sex. They keep people from...”
– Sex-Negative Education and the Spectre of Rape - Sex Positive Activism. (via likeknivesandwolves)
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[TW: rape] Date Night
sanityscraps:
hookahandhappiness:
Me: Hey babe, you want to do a rape fantasy? Girlfriend: NO! Me: That’s the spirit
Okay WHAT THE HELL is wrong with you?! When someone says no, that means you back the fuck off. Period. Doing otherwise makes you a rapist shitfucker.
What about RAPE JOKES ARE NOT FUNNY do people not understand? Why is this so hard to get? Jokes about rape, sexual assault,...
“I don’t think I’ve ever made someone stop desiring me by asking [for consent...”
– Cliff Pervocracy (via hobbitdragon)
whoneedsfeminism:
I need feminism because people automatically assume I’m a ‘guy’ in the MMO I play, and when I correct them I immediately get called out as a man pretending to be a woman to get attention. Then I’m supposed to prove it with pictures. Then all the guys have to tell a story about “some dumb girl” they know who plays this game in ways they think are wrong or stupid. They assume I...
Something to think about
sosodeb:
Victims of sex trafficking can be women or men, girls or boys, but the majority are women and girls. There are a number of common
patterns for luring victims into situations of sex trafficking, including:
• A promise of a good job in another country
• A false marriage proposal turned into a bondage situation
• Being sold into the sex trade by parents, husbands, boyfriends
•...
“Every year, more than 200,000 individuals report their rape to the police....”
– Eliminate the Rape Kit Backlog | Human Rights Watch (via humanrightswatch)
Resubmitting another post because this happened,...
whoneedsfeminism:
I Need Feminism because today, I was tailed by a man in a car for a few minutes while walking in a carpark during work. I was wearing my work clothes, a collared polo shirt over a long-sleeved shirt and loose dark pants. Hardly provocative or ‘asking for it’, which is what some people would sneer and claim if they heard of a girl getting harassed in a public space. He wound...
“I am not proposing that sexual violence and domestic violence will no longer...”
– Rebecca Farr, CARA member, in The Revolution Starts at Home (via miswritten) 