September 2012
August 2012
TW: Rape
casual-isms:
Casual sexism is not understanding why a woman you just met didn’t accept a drink you offered her.
Casual sexism is having her explain her actions, but telling her she should “stop being paranoid” because her actions hurt your feelings.
Casual sexism is putting your feelings above a woman’s safety.
Nappyedges: Casual sexism doesn’t understand that men put date rape drugs in...
{TW: mentions of rape, sexual assault} Let me make...
thinkspeakstress:
If you think that a victim of sexual assault needs to be nice to their assailant
If you feel the need to stand up for people who commit sexual assault and rape
If you feel like anybody voicing their anger and hatred against somebody who has violated them is a problem, versus the actual crime against them
If you feel like an SA survivor’s wishing death against her assailant...
“My mistrust [of men] is not, as one might expect, primarily a result of the...”
– (via ceedling)
There are reasons for why she's posed/dressed that...
tallerandblueonline:
juvjuvychan:
*Quick note: I’m not all knowing there is still tons that I don’t know or understand about these issues. And I’m not claiming to.
Warning: image heavy click to enlarge pictures
Forever and a day ago I wrote a post called Men Are Objectified Too! which was all about how women in comics are objectified. I wanted to write something of a follow-up post that...
The permissible rape of drunk women →
tarnishedtypist:
There is such a scary culture around women getting drunk in the west. At parties, women’s bodies are up for grabs—literally. Women are encouraged to dance, kiss their female friends, and take off their clothes, all for male viewing pleasure. In rape culture, drunk women are public property. Drunk…
[tw: rape] Guatemalan trans woman says she was... →
A young Guatemalan trans woman who sought asylum in Denmark says that on her arrival she was placed in the men’s wing of an asylum seeker’s camp and gang raped by several men who forced their way into her room.
The woman, Fernanda, was placed in the male section of Sandholm - a former barracks converted into a camp for asylum seekers – because under Danish law she is classed as a man.
Speaking...
things that terrify me:
pallas-athena:
friendlyangryfeminist:
a woman pursuing a man who is not interested is ‘creepy’ or ‘crazy’. she deserves scorn and should be laughed at. if this woman is considered less attractive than the man, the man will be pitied.
compared to
a man pursuing a woman who has said no, gives her gifts and continues to ask her on a date is ‘romantic’, ‘sweet’ and worthy of our respect and...
tw: suicide, rape, depression, victim-blaming.
theoryofablackbird:
I find it ironic that my ex told I had a moral responsibility to report my rapist because rape victims have a really high suicide rate, and if one of his future victims killed themself, it was my fault. I tried to kill myself about a week after that conversation, his words in my ears.
I’m apart of that high suicide rate, Prince Charming.
I’m responsible for my rapist’s...
“Think of all the illnesses and conditions that make the news regularly. Take...”
– Here is Some Legitimate Science on Pregnancy and Rape
And then the always-brilliant Jeremy Yoder and Scicurious pointed me to an older post of Jesse Bering’s that he retweeted today in response to the Akin mess. The gist of the blog post’s argument is that preeclampsia is a mechanism to protect...
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TW - rape, sexual assault, rape apologism, rape culture
aboutmaleprivilege:
Reading these posts reminded me of when I was 16.
I was dating a guy and he took me to our high school’s football game, and halfway through the game he stuck his hand up my shirt and grabbed me and wouldn’t stop. I got real flustered and tried to push him away and told him not to do that. That I wasn’t comfortable. And...
fuckyeahsexeducation:
I hate doing this (again), but I am poor and this is the only way I can make money.
My boyfriend’s car is broken down, it’s going to take an entire paycheck to fix it but we have bills every paycheck (plus the cost of food) so we’re not quite sure when we’ll be able to get it fixed so if you could please donate. It doesn’t matter if it’s a lot and I totally understand if...
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TW - rape, abuse
aboutmaleprivilege:
Male privilege is bugging the fuck out of your girlfriend by asking her over and over again if you can mess around with her in the middle of the fucking stairs during fucking gym class, until she finally gets fed up with it and just lets you do what you want to her body so she can finally be left alone.
Male privilege is thinking that it’s okay to...
aboutmaleprivilege:
Male privilege is dancing on a girl without her consent, then after she pushes you away, you talk about how “ugly” she was in the first place.
The Top 5 Quotes About Rape from Republican Men
agvnotes:
These are the best GOP rape quotes I could find - but message me if you have more! Let’s hold these people accountable.
1. Todd Akin: “If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways of shutting that whole thing down” - mid 2012 Senate Campaign
2. Claytie Williams: “If it’s inevitable, just relax and enjoy it” - mid 1990 Gubernatorial race in Texas
3. Chuck Winder: “I would...
“There is a problem when the dominant narrative within pornography is one that...”
– Does the Porn Industry Suck? A Feminist’s Look (via stfusexists)
“Even Kohl’s department - not exactly edgy - features padded push-up bras with...”
–
Shalit, Wendy. Girls Gone Mild: Young Women Reclaim Self-Respect & Find It’s Not Bad to Be Good. Random House; New York. 2007. (pg. xx - xxi)
“The Friend Zone is a bullshit, misogynistic, make-believe land Nice Guys have...”
– Nice Guy Syndrome and the Friend Zone (via loveyourrebellion)
“The views expressed were offensive. Rape is rape. And the idea that we should be...”
– President Obama in a surprise press conference today, speaking about Todd Akin’s deplorable “legitimate rape” statement. (via imma-robot)
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biraciallyinsensitive:
catladysoul:
robocommie:
How to tell a rape joke: Take a metal bar, beat a rapist or rape apologist repeatedly and say “so a rapist walks into a bar” with each stroke.
need this on blog always
Or Todd Akin.
You can also beat Todd Akin.
“I am over rape.
I am over rape culture, rape mentality, rape pages on...”
– Eve Ensler (via aboutmaleprivilege)
“I remember very well the first and last place from which I was dismissed. I lost...”
– excerpt from an account given by an unidentified African American nurse and former domestic worker, printed in The Independent on 1/25/1912. (via alyshabee)
The sad part is that not a whole lot has changed.
(via karnythia)
"You MUST report this." Part I
theoryofablackbird:
If you want to report your rapist and do, I am so proud of you. If you don’t want to report your rapist and you don’t, I am so proud of you. If you don’t want to report your rapist and someone tells you that you have to, I send that someone on Privilege Island my sincere greetings. But I am still proud of you.
LISTEN
As a victim who reported her attacker, and who’s attacker...
aboutmaleprivilege:
Male privilege is when, at a metal show, when a woman sits on someone’s shoulders she is expected to flash the crowd. And if she doesn’t, she gets booed and yelled things such as “TEASE!” and “TITS OR GET DOWN!” by the men.
And then when you express horror at what is happening to these women, you get told that they “should have expected it by coming to a metal show.”
aboutmaleprivilege:
Male privilege is repeatedly interrupting my reading to comment about how “hot” I am and how you want my number so we can “hook up.” Male privilege is assuming that your interruption should be acknowledged by me in a friendly way. Male privilege is becoming upset and loud when I politely tell you that I’m not interested. At this point, a pregnant woman (at least 7-9 months...
An Important Reminder
You don’t owe anybody anything. You are responsible for yourself first, last, and always. You do NOT have to do something just because someone else wants you to. If someone wants you to do something and you don’t want to that’s ok, that’s fine, that’s great, because it’s all about what you want. It’s not selfish or self-centered to admit that you...
“Telling a guy the real reasons you’re not interested — you don’t find him...”
– No more Mr. Nice Guy (via sluteverbabe)
!!!!!
(via meezyhabeezy)
So fucking true.
(via tallerandblueonline)
red3blog:
Another thing about misandry: A lot of what weepy men cite as “misandry” isn’t women hating men. Its women not trusting men. That distrust is not irrational. It is learned. It is valid. Is it “fair”? That’s the wrong question to ask. Is it fair for women to be have been treated in a manner where they would not trust men?
When men try to police distrust and resentment born out of male...
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Marriage =/= Consent!!!!
an anonymous submission, TW - hardcore rape culture and rape apologism
I was talking to my mom about Paul Ryan, George Galloway, and Todd Akin. She told me that when I was upset that George Galloway said consent is not required prior to each insertion, that he was right. She then went on to tell me how in a marriage a woman is required to have sex with her husband, and it is a god given right,...
“I was shocked to see parts of the very Left which regularly slams patriarchy,...”
– When the Left apologises for Assange (via commiebabe)
Pregnant Dominican Teen Dies of Complications of... →
aboutmaleprivilege:
cis male privilege is not being denied medicine due to pregnancy
“The views expressed were offensive. Rape is rape and the idea that we should be...”
– President Obama today on Rep. Todd Akin (via barackobama)
source
(via christel-thoughts)
Had to reblog this! Thank you, Mr. President.
(via sonofbaldwin)
“There are obvious difficulties in studying rape outcomes as “only 16 to 38% of...”
– Dr. Jen Gunter, “Did Todd Akin get his misinformation on rape and pregnancy from Physicians for Life?” (via ineedmymorningtea)
Submission call-out! “We Got This: A Zine about... →
strugglingtobeheard:
boost this!!!
“[TW: rape] When a woman reports a rape, her body is a crime scene. She is...”
– Spencer Rathus et al, “Human Sexuality in a World of Diversity”, p. 582 (via lavenderlabia)
Trigger Warning: Rape
nakedcrip:
Prostitutes can be raped. The rape of a prostitute is as horrifying and violating as the rape of anyone else. Prostitutes have the right to bodily integrity and the right to consent or not consent.
And if you think that this isn’t the case why are you breathing my air?
bad-dominicana:
Its been bovvering me That we are raised w little sex ed and have little agency And we focus on safe sex but what we call safe sex is still often not safe because someone involved lacks agency Really safe sex is sex where you’re safe in every sense. It bothers me to think that I could grab every young woman of color and educate them to hell and back on sex technicalities But...
aboutmaleprivilege:
Male privilege is getting away with sexually harassing the girls in your swim class, and when a girl tries to bring this to the attention of your dad, your actions are defended with “well boys aren’t as mature as girls.”
“We don’t lift weights in order to look hot, especially for the likes of men like...”
– Zoe Smith, 18 year old weightlifter currently representing Great Britain at the Olympics, responding to tweets labelling her muscles “unattractive” and “unfeminine”. (via albinwonderland)
aboutmaleprivilege:
Male privilege is when your physics lab demonstrator makes disturbing comments in jest about you (the only female in the lab) “doing things” with the oscilloscope you are using, even saying “if you decide to do “these things” tell me so I can go do something discretely in the hallway…” and the whole male class laughs it off whilst you sit there feeling shocked and extremely...
[Trigger Warning] Fox's Liz Trotta On Sexual...
commonsenseslut:
prochoicetruth:
Source
During a segment about new rules regarding women in the military, Fox News contributor Liz Trotta attacked the Department of Defense for increasing spending on support programs for victims of sexual assault. Trotta also reacted to a Pentagon report showing a 64% increase in violent sexual assaults since 2006 by stating: “Now, what did they expect?...
aboutmaleprivilege:
Male privilege is saying women are overreacting when they take measures to avoid being assaulted, then saying it must be their fault for not taking proper precautions when they do get assaulted.
If you have to spew shit, at least fucking choose one.
Anonymous asked: your a fucking idiot right?? you dont have any fucking idea what the war was like and what it meant for people when it was over. dont destroy the beauty of this picture. and this is coming from someone who has been sexually abused.
Prostitution, Violence Against Women, and... →
expatriat:
Abstract One hundred and thirty people working as prostitutes in San Francisco were interviewed regarding the extent of violence in their lives and symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Fifty-seven percent reported that they had been sexually assaulted as children and 49% reported that they had been physically assaulted as children.
As adults in prostitution, 82% had been...
