note to women: not all men are rapists but don’t dress like a whore and be responsible for your actions because all men are rapists
You forgot “be clear about your boundaries with men, but don’t ever directly say no, because you might hurt their feelings and not be ladylike, and unladylike women deserve whatever happens to them.”
Yesterday I was chatting with some of my friends about the heinous douchey d00dbro outcry over Angelina Jolie’s mastectomy as though somehow her breasts and their attachment to those breasts is far more important than her life and overall well-being when one of my friends questioned the seeming disconnect between the common douchey d00dbro LOVE of fake titties but getting a mastectomy and having implants put in afterwards is somehow the worst thing evar. In theory fake bewbs are fake bewbs and if you’re one of those d00ds who likes ‘em then it shouldn’t matter how or why they happened, right? Well, clearly that’s not the case so there must be something more going on here.
I think the real issue here, the real reason so many jerks are being jerks over this is agency. A woman who gets giant fake implants in order to please a man or many men is doing what women are “supposed” to do, she’s packaging herself, her body, and her sexuality for (cishet) male consumption and making herself complicit in the objectification that goes along with all that (cishet) male consumption. She’s not “really” being the agent of her own life, she is, but she’s doing it in a way that places the (cishet) male gaze in a position of primacy and she’s in no way challenging that gaze, that consumption, and the overarching patriarchal nonsense that creates all that stuff in the first place.
Meanwhile a woman doing something like what Ms. Jolie did is extremely agentic. She’s taking charge of her health, her body, and her life and not considering (cishet) male opinions in the process. This is all about her, what’s best for her, what she needs and how dare she act like her breasts are her’s to do with as she pleases?! How dare she act like her health and well-being is more important than the ogling and fantasizing and objectification of douchey d00dbros?! How dare she actually be the agent of her own life and behave like a whole person instead of a collection of body parts which exists exclusively for (cishet) male consumption?!
It’s not about the breasts, it was never about the breasts, it’s about a woman exercising her agency, using her power for herself without regard for (cishet) male opinions and the douchey d00dbros can’t handle that because it upsets the patriarchal balance their way of life depends upon which, to them, is the worst most tragic thing possible.
This is so true. When I was raped the most terrifying thing was worrying what else he was capable of.