Personal Experiences with Rape Culture

fuckyeahsexeducation:

TW: Assault/Rape

hungoverjesus:

rats-in-the-walls:

folk-piggie:

spellbound-masquerade:

THIS.

theducttapeproject:

The Duct Tape Project
“Men and boys can be assaulted and raped by women. It’s not related to masculinity”

Either gender can be assaulted by either gender. People tend to think that it is not possible for males to be assaulted by females. This is not true. And it doesn’t make the victim any less of a man for it before the assault or afterwards.

Too many people forget that males can also be raped. It’s not just females who get abused and/or raped. Males do as well. This needs to change. Just because a male gets raped, it doesn’t make him any less deserving of help than if it was a female who was raped by a male. It can go the other way round.

People’s general attitude towards men being sexually assaulted is “lol” and “well that doesn’t sound like a problem!” This attitude contributes towards men feeling emasculated and it needs to stop. 

I’m glad that people didn’t just go “lol did you like it?” when it happened to me.

This needs to be circulated more.

I feel very uncomfortable with that last line there “it’s not related to masculinity.”  Patriarchal notions of masculinity absolutely contribute to rape culture in a major way. Socially constructed ideas about what masculinity “should” be is one of the biggest reasons most people have no clue that men/boys can and do get raped and sexually assaulted by women/girls/men/boys/non-binary people.  Socially constructed ideas about what masculinity “should” be is also one of the major reasons the rapes a sexual assaults of men/boys aren’t taken seriously.  I think that what they mean by “it’s not related to masculinity” is that a man/boy can be and is still a man/boy, still masculine even if he’s the victim of rape/sexual assault and that’s a completely accurate and legitimate point.  But that doesn’t change the fact that the rape culture aspects of the rapes/sexual assaults men/boys suffer absolutely are related to masculinity (specifically patriarchal notions of masculinity) in a very big way.

(via captain-sonic)