TW - SEXUAL ASSAULT
c/ i mentioned that i thought it was creepy to the other girls in my group but they just laughed and said i was overreacting and he was harmless. was i or is this something i should be genuinely worried about? i’m never going to see him again but i can’t shake this “icky” feeling. especially since he was the judge for the competition today and my group just so happened to win. maybe i’m drawing lines where there are none but i felt like i needed to tell someone x
No you are NOT overreacting and what he did was NOT harmless. For starters NOBODY has the right to touch you in ANY way without your consent and this guy clearly did that. Not only did he violate you by touching you without your consent but he did it in an obviously and overtly sexual manner and he verbally objectified you which are both serious problems. Additionally, he’s clearly in a position of power over you which makes what he did a pretty clear abuse of power in addition to just being completely creepy and awful.
This is DEFINITELY a big deal and I’m so so so sorry you had to deal with that! Truly, you have all my sympathies both for having been sexually assaulted by someone like that and also for having it diminished/minimized like that by the people you tried to talk with about it. They should not have done that and you did not deserve to have your feelings ignored and gaslighted that way.